Monday, August 24, 2009

Super Embarrassing Moments

So........Cady hasn't ever really said or done anything horribly embarrassing to Brady and I in her short life.

Every good thing has an end I suppose.

Tonight we went to the post office to mail a book someone requested through PaperBack Swap (check out their site! Very good way of trading books and getting new ones to read!). We use the Automated Postal thingie and since it was after hours it was really dead in there. When we got in there was a woman and her daughter using the machine and another woman behind her. We got in line. Now...the woman at the front of the line had the BIGGEST rear end I have ever seen. We are talking need three seats on an air plane big. Brady's raised eyebrows indicated that it was the same for him. Cadence didn't say anything so I thought things might be okay. Keep in mind that she has never said anything commenting on peoples size before so it really didn't occur to me that she would say anything. The woman with the large caboose finishes and they move over to the counters to finish with their packages. As they are walking away Cady says in her loudest toddler voice, into the obscenely quiet room:

"Mom! That lady has a really huge butt!"

She lingered over the word huge too.

Now, I don't think that this would have been as embarrassing for me had I not been thinking it. Heck I had already given her a nickname in my head for sobbing out loud. I immediately told Cadence that we don't say things like that because they are rude and I would have told her to tell the lady sorry, except they were ignoring us, something I am kind of grateful for. I am sure that I was ten different shades of red.

They left.

Brady had picked up Cady and was explaining in his calm way that she wasn't in trouble, but that we don't talk about people's butts in public, that some people are sad when we do that, etc. The woman in front of us started using the machine. Brady then said,

"Well. That was embarrassing."

The woman at the machine quipped, "Only because it was true."

She is right. Part of me wanted to laugh when Cadence said the awful words so loudly. It was that part of me that made my embarrassment that much worse. I shouldn't have found it humorous (well not until after the fact).

It is my job to teach them bit by bit what is appropriate and what isn't and that they can always ask us about things that confuse them in privacy. I know it will be a while before Cadence "gets" these things. I know I will probably have many more of these moments and I need to be better prepared to deal with them or head them off in advance. You know, see the problem before it comes.

Kids...

PS check out the post below for the family update I made earlier today. Pictures and the whole bit plus good news about Brady's AF job.

3 comments:

Amanda J said...

That is hilarious! I swear stuff like that is so much funnier way after the fact. About a year ago Nicholas was looking out our windows, saw a couple of black kids playing and YELLS "Look mom, monkeys!". Talk about embarrassing! I didn't look my neighbors in the eye for weeks after that and I ended up taking them cookies.

The Fleming Family said...

Oh man! That is so funny and incredibly embarassing!! That is one thing that I REALLY like about deaf culture. That would have totally not been rude. (And it would include pointing and blowing the cheeks out to imply fatness etc.) She knows she has a big butt. And so it would have been expected that she would be known as the woman with the HUGE butt. If she didn't like it she could change it. Too bad we can't be a little more like that.
-Danielle

The Woods People said...

Ha ha I wish we all had the toddler approach, it would make the world a lot better place!